How to be (mostly) happy

I will share with you one of the biggest practical keys to being (mostly) happy.

Of the things that you most enjoy to do, identify and then train yourself to focus on the ones that cannot be 'rationed' by someone else (reading - for pleasure or for learning, running, playing a musical instrument, exercise). If the activity is something that cannot really be practiced by yourself (sex, tennis, judo, ?), then you must create a scenario can still protects you from rationing. For example, if your jones is sex (and you're a male), then don't get married. If it's tennis, then join a club that you can go to and always find a partner to play with.

If your jones is money, then make sure that you can make enough money to support your activities/desires.

If your jones involves activities that require groups, then make sure you hook up with a group of like-minded people.

Over the long haul, rationing is frustrating. If you can avoid those scenarios, you'll be able to pursue your jones with concentrated gusto to the (mostly) full extent that you want.